• Published: 17 February 2019
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?


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    'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick

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    • Jennifer Carrillo
      Jennifer Carrillo  1 weeks back

      That’s me

    • Taryn Hill
      Taryn Hill  2 weeks back

      This link appears to be a 404 now -- can we get an updated link, please?

    • Dark Claw
      Dark Claw  2 weeks back

      I can't find it..

    • George Paris
      George Paris  3 weeks back

      Better to stay alone, to many crazy guys out there, it's too risky 😕 nowadays love stories are becoming horror stories! 🙁

  • Kakoin Sine
    Kakoin Sine  1 hours back

    Это чё атсылка на ДЖОДЖО

    • malik Unknown
      malik Unknown  2 hours back

      Here’s a tip avoid social media

      • Aniket Yelwande
        Aniket Yelwande  3 hours back


        • hoshii.
          hoshii.  4 hours back

          How the fuck is this so accurate holy fuck
          "Seek professional help. It is a sign of courage."

          please help me

          • Skii C
            Skii C  9 hours back

            This actually helped me...in some way it helped me realize and understand myself.

            • Michael Priest
              Michael Priest  9 hours back

              I haven’t had a good laugh in a while...

              • Leafy's Leaf
                Leafy's Leaf  13 hours back


                • DarszyRandoms
                  DarszyRandoms  14 hours back

                  Im suffering a long, slow and immensely painful death.

                  • Matthew Lee Jian Wei
                    Matthew Lee Jian Wei  22 hours back

                    Thank you so much for this video

                    • Justice Warrior
                      Justice Warrior  24 hours back

                      Just get a really good girlfriend!!

                    • Turtatical
                      Turtatical  24 hours back

                      ah, those dam video games at it again

                      • introvers o
                        introvers o  1 days back

                        Thanks for recommending me this. That's how I feel since the past 4 years.

                        • Helafiñwë
                          Helafiñwë  1 days back

                          guess I have chronic loneliness

                          • Tnv Madhav
                            Tnv Madhav  1 days back

                            sometimes i feel that i shouldn't exist. i think because i am not providing any value to the society that i live in

                            • rdzlx
                              rdzlx  1 days back

                              I’m so distant and disassociate myself so much at this point lol I’m so worried

                              • sebastian devosi
                                sebastian devosi  1 days back

                                10:56  Let's reach out to someone today

                              • Phoenix Flames
                                Phoenix Flames  1 days back

                                I have accepted my loneliness, it makes sitting alone at the lunch table, not having friends more bearable. I’m ok with being lonely. Is that ok?

                                • Swagger Son
                                  Swagger Son  1 days back

                                  I want a fucking boyfriend and you reminded me omg XD

                                  • Unknown Gamer117
                                    Unknown Gamer117  1 days back

                                    I am glad I am lonely yaaay and can’t wait to die

                                    • Patimakorn Rongpak
                                      Patimakorn Rongpak  1 days back

                                      *I'm waving through the window*

                                      • TouchedBigfoot8
                                        TouchedBigfoot8  1 days back

                                        Not even an adult and I’m feeling this. Horray

                                        • CENAAFILMS Pr
                                          CENAAFILMS Pr  2 days back

                                          We are living better together:)

                                          • VVafels
                                            VVafels  2 days back


                                            • No Face
                                              No Face  2 days back

                                              This assumes anyone invites you or calls you in the first place. Wrong assumption.

                                              • Der Mikadomampfer
                                                Der Mikadomampfer  2 days back

                                                Why can't I find a wife. :(

                                                • Karl Mountain
                                                  Karl Mountain  2 days back

                                                  5:10 thats a pringle

                                                  • Marvin Martin
                                                    Marvin Martin  2 days back

                                                    The script of this took 1 and 1/2 years to finish. Mad respects.

                                                    • HitWalkHook
                                                      HitWalkHook  2 days back

                                                      I am not lonely.
                                                      I am loneliness itself.

                                                      I mean for real....
                                                      I am 0/24, 360 lonely, maybe 4 days of the year i have a company in any way other than trying to fit into randoms.

                                                      • id gaf
                                                        id gaf  2 days back

                                                        damn this one hits hard

                                                        • Ritu Meena
                                                          Ritu Meena  2 days back

                                                          3 people one after another pointed yesterday that I do not communicate/ engage with people. I told myself I have got this, I don't talk to people because I don't want to. But the last person had questioned if I am depressed and pointed how much I have changed over the years. I told myself again that I am okay and that I am not happy but I am also not sad. Then I watched this video...It describes me!!

                                                          • Jack McConnell
                                                            Jack McConnell  2 days back

                                                            Just started uni. This video is very fitting lol

                                                            • Overseer Neocyclone
                                                              Overseer Neocyclone  2 days back

                                                              Loneliness humanity greatest weekness

                                                              • Pritam Roy
                                                                Pritam Roy  2 days back

                                                                I risked being vulnerable again and i shit you she made me feel so good when she was with me ..... And then 'Life' happened and she lost her feelings for me being vulnerable feels good uk but when she left me like we had nothing and that shattered me uk and j can't stop feeling this constant pain in my chest as if something's missing it's not a painful feeling but this keeps you from socializing and doing things you love

                                                                • Alondra Naranjo
                                                                  Alondra Naranjo  2 days back

                                                                  Kids at my school when I was 9: Hi wanna be friends?! Me: k

                                                                  me: Wanna be friends? popular kids
                                                                  no ur dumb and poor and have no money.

                                                                  My mom: won the lottery*

                                                                  Me at school: WE WON THE LOTTERY

                                                                  Popular kids: OMG WANNA BE FRIENDS!?!

                                                                  • Sprogus
                                                                    Sprogus  2 days back

                                                                    Don't sacrifice time with friends over your boring parenthood, because your friends are already your real family.
                                                                    Making children is useless.

                                                                    • Y'ra Exal'ga S'kgs
                                                                      Y'ra Exal'ga S'kgs  2 days back

                                                                      I'm at the chronic stage... I'm scared and hopeless. I don't know what to do...I assume that nobody wants me around and that everyone is against me. I tried professional help and she declared me depressed. But I couldnt bring myself to trust her enough to open up fully. I eventually quit going. I'm terrified of social interactions and opening up to strangers. I have only one friend

                                                                      • Superblobby
                                                                        Superblobby  3 days back

                                                                        We were never meant to live like this

                                                                        • Live freely and Wonderfully in joy.
                                                                          Live freely and Wonderfully in joy.  2 days back

                                                                          @Superblobby Yea u r welcomed ;)

                                                                        • Superblobby
                                                                          Superblobby  2 days back

                                                                          • I am a Funny YouTuber lol you're right, thanks man, I didn't expect this wisdom but here you are :)

                                                                          Cheers, mate.

                                                                        • Live freely and Wonderfully in joy.
                                                                          Live freely and Wonderfully in joy.  2 days back

                                                                          @Superblobby Yea but sometimes u just have to be positive and love what u have in your case u have an family that loves and cares for u, u should be grateful for that sometimes many people are not cared for u know.

                                                                        • Superblobby
                                                                          Superblobby  2 days back

                                                                          • I am a Funny YouTuber lol yeah, sucks that I’m not born into the royal family of something. But at least my family loves me

                                                                        • Live freely and Wonderfully in joy.
                                                                          Live freely and Wonderfully in joy.  2 days back

                                                                          Yet we r living like this sad huh😂

                                                                      • Spiders, Inc.
                                                                        Spiders, Inc.  3 days back

                                                                        *I want to see a video of My Big Hairy Nuts - In A Nutshell*

                                                                        • Owl Studios
                                                                          Owl Studios  3 days back

                                                                          Wonderful vedio

                                                                          • Invisible Person
                                                                            Invisible Person  3 days back

                                                                            I feel like im becoming less important and less needed from people I trusted so much

                                                                            • luke poyser
                                                                              luke poyser  3 days back

                                                                              has he got a video on depression or any other mental health problems ?

                                                                              • Pradhyumn Jadon
                                                                                Pradhyumn Jadon  3 days back

                                                                                *calls friend from school after watching this video*
                                                                                Me: Hello!
                                                                                He: 2 years of High school and 4 years of engineering, this is the first time you've called me
                                                                                Me: No!! That's not true. You're forgetting all time times I've called!
                                                                                *Tbh I rarely call people xD he usually called me so we are good friends, damn feels good*

                                                                                • 4N17400
                                                                                  4N17400  3 days back

                                                                                  i wish i could make a big club house full of fun stuff and happyness for lonely People wjere we Can be friends

                                                                                • Wolf Hands
                                                                                  Wolf Hands  3 days back

                                                                                  wow how did you get my life story and present it so well

                                                                                  • iTz0nyx
                                                                                    iTz0nyx  3 days back

                                                                                    I have s

                                                                                    The *lone*

                                                                                    • William Andanu
                                                                                      William Andanu  3 days back

                                                                                      When I'm trying to open up to anyone, my mind automatically thinks : "why are you trying? nobody would understand you anyways. It's useless to do that."

                                                                                      • Aussie Richards
                                                                                        Aussie Richards  3 days back

                                                                                        Loneliness really does hurt